I always have the belief that it is very common for people to think about their ex-partners. Individuals that have been an important part of your lives continue to take up a part of your mind and heart. It is impossible to dramatically shut the person out of thoughts and feelings. Just because the relationship ends does not mean that all is finished, at least if you were serious in the relationship before, not just ‘play play’.

It is about the breathtaking expansion of my ability to miss many while exploring the possibility of sharing my life with just one. I spend a lot time evaluating within myself whether or not this is actually true, whether it really is ‘miss’ that I feel for these different people. I fear it could be instead a desperate search for validation, some kind of dying to quench the incompleteness I feel out of a relationship, and that these needs are a result of some shortcoming of mine

Should I be grateful for having been granted the joy of fun and affection from you at one point of time in which it just not meant to last? Knowing such wonderful memories are great to have, I should be thankful I had those great experiences from you and feelings towards you.