To my beloved bro. :

Having little information on what has happened lately, I am not in position to judge your decision either right or wrong. However, I am here to share with you what is in my thought, what I actually discern in your recent affair.

You might have to accept the truth that you are wandering around in a blissful haze, totally besotted. Love sneaks up and whacks you upside the head. When the relationship is new and shiny, like everyone does, the beloved would be perceived to be surrounded by otherworldly aura, devoid of imperfections. Forsaking a dull and old lover, you just cannot get enough of this dazzling newness. Same process goes on, once the affair is no longer fresh and dewy, there exists the distinct possibility for disillusionment. You will start to wonder how you didn’t notice certain things, this is where horrible truths come out and sense of remorse permeates in.

A relationship is not just about the fresh and dewy, but it is an alternating emotion of love and enmity. You might have lost the intimacy within a loving relationship, but there always exists the passion and some commitments from and for each other. Do not let the dull and something new overwhelmed these. You should cynical about affairs in your heart.

You might have claimed that you have no control over your feelings, as much as you phrase this as an excuse to indulge yourself in a love affair, as far as you let yourself expose to the possibility of emotionally devastating disaster. People do not just fall in love with no will or intention or choice in the matter. People certainly fall into feelings of affection for others and may find themselves inextricably and powerfully drawn to other human beings, but that is not the equivalent of loving them. To love someone you must act. And when we say act, it definitely should be the proper acts, not self-indulgently flooding your wall, telling the whole world with those frivolous remarks, trifle you with undue levity posts.

1. Give up the old just because of the new, it is a no no.

2. Give up the old and there comes a new, probably yes.

3. Forsake the new and stick back to the old, you should see how far you can carry on with the old.

4. Forsake both and let go.

Option 1 and 2: Adopt an easy come-and-go way when dealing with the new one, at least for the initial stage.

Option 3 and 4: Be grateful for having been granted the joy of fun and affection at one point of time in which it just not meant to last, even just a short period and move on.

After all, you are the centre of everything. Make sure you do not get hurt at the end of the day while minimising the pain you might leave people behind.


Sincerely.